But what really is the cause of this shyness? Why would some men be so shy to talk to women while others are extremely good at it?
I would share eight reasons why you are too shy to talk to a lady:
1. FEAR OF REJECTION
As every other thing in life, you can never be successful if you are filled with fear. The fear of rejection is one of the many reasons why men are too scared to talk to a lady. To these men, it’s better to remain where they are than to be rejected. The fear of rejection would fill your head with all manner of thoughts that would only leave you feeling frustrated.
2. FEAR OF NOT KNOWING WHAT TO SAY
This is also another reason why men become so shy of approaching a lady. To men like this, you ought to have a blueprint of what to say right in your mind before you approach that lady — and the tape that plays in their head is; “what if I go there and not know what to say?”
3. PREVIOUS BAD EXPERIENCE
Almost every man that’s shy with women has had at least one bad experience with women that have even made him enter his shell the more. A lot of previous bad experiences add to make men shy of talking to a woman.
4. WAITING FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT
Men who are shy of talking to women most times still remain shy because they keep waiting for the perfect moment — a perfect moment that never comes. There is hardly anything as a perfect moment, and men who keep waiting for the perfect moment would never get it right.
5. LACK OF CONFIDENCE
This is another major reason a lot of men are shy of talking to women. Confidence can make you do anything you want to and a lack of confidence would make you unable to do anything. Women also see through men’s confidence and lack of it; your confidence would make you look attractive, and you look vulnerable when you lack confidence.
6. AWARENESS OF BODY FLAWS
When you keep counting your body flaws then you can never make it, as far as talking to women is concerned. When you keep thinking of how short you are or how fat you look or certain flaws you feel your body has then you would never overcome that feeling of shyness as far as talking to women is concerned.
7.YOUR INNER MAN
The problem of most men is what I call the inner man. When you let that inner man tell you all manner of things and you give in then you would hardly ever overcome that shyness of talking to women.
8.NO SOCIAL LIFE
Even though I’ve seen men with poor social life not having this phobia of talking to women, more often than not, it boils down to social life. Your social life could make you know how to socialize with the opposite sex, while a lack of social life could leave you without experience and this is what many women suffer from.
These eight reasons can make you so shy of talking to women and even if you take the bold step of talking to her, you might end up making quite a nuisance of yourself. If you want to overcome shyness then these eight tips should be far away from you.