Isn’t it almost everyone’s dream to have a wonderful relationship with their partner that would then move on to marriage? Many people desire this, but not every relationship would move on to marriage, even though you’ve been in the relationship for a very long time.
Many people have invested so much in their relationship; a lot of years, Mindy, emotions and resources only for the relationship to fail or they get jilted.
There are also signs that can reveal that a relationship wouldn’t lead to marriage and you just have to be careful enough to spot those signs.
1. POOR COMMITMENT
Don’t be deceived, poor commitment or a relationship without commitment would hardly ever lead to marriage. When commitment exists in a relationship, it shows that both partners love and care enough about each other and are dedicated to having a future together.
Commitment is a very positive sign that the relationship is heading the right way, but when one partner isn’t TOTALLY committed to the relationship, then it might die off. I placed emphasis on totally because, it’s mostly a totally committed partner that would want to take the relationship further; when one partner isn’t fully committed, this could be a bad sign.
2. THE RELATIONSHIP IS ONLY SEXUAL
A lot of people mistake the sexual passion and intimacy in a relationship as a sign of cohesiveness, but this isn’t true. Sex isn’t the only reason couples get married; you would hardly see a relationship that went on to marriage because the sex was great, no!
If you are in a relationship that’s purely sexual, then you need to watch it; such a relationship might fall short of leading to marriage.
3. THE FUTURE ISN’T A PRIORITY
Your priorities show where your heart truly lies; if the future is a priority for you, but isn’t really a priority for your partner, then it shows something isn’t right. When both partners place a priority on the future then the relationship is on the right track, otherwise, that relationship might not head to marriage.
4. YOU DON’T WORK FOR EACH OTHER
Committed partners who are interested in building a successful relationship that would then turn to marriage work for each other; they support each other, do their best to help each other out and they want the best for each other. When this is lacking in a relationship, when there is no desire from both partners to work for each other, then it could be a sign that the relationship might not head to marriage.
5. YOU CAN’T TOLERATE EACH OTHER
Tolerance shows a couple can live with each other successfully. When there is a lack of tolerance, unforgiving heart, hate, malice and grudges take over the relationship; how then can such a relationship head to marriage?
6. LACK OF TRUST
Trust is another important factor in relationships that would lead to marriage; when two partners trust each other, they live at peace with each other — this creates a sense of security and harmony. However, when trust is lacking, security would be lacking, doubt would take over, jealousy would exist and so many other things that would ruin the long-term future of the relationship.
Emotions are what show how the relationship is faring, and when they are
bottled up, things might not move in the right direction. If you don’t show each other when you are happy, sad, when you feel betrayed, how much you love and care for each other, then it could be said that your relationship lacks passion, and even if such a relationship transcends to marriage, it might suffer.
8. OTHER ROMANTIC AFFAIRS
When your partner can’t stick to you, but you still have hopes of getting married to such a partner, this might pose a problem. If your partner can’t stick to you then what’s the assurance that you are the one your partner truly wants? And if such a relationship moves on to marriage, things wouldn’t change as well.
9. LOSS OF INTEREST
Interest shows where your heart lies; it shows what you truly desire and what you yearn for. When you start having a decreased interest for your partner, or your partner starts having a reduced interest in you then that relationship might not head to marriage.
Many partners for some reasons tend to have a reduced affection for each other and care less for each other as time goes on.
When in a relationship, it’s important to notice what goes on in that relationship; many people have relationships that might not head to marriage and they don’t notice until it’s late.
When a relationship wouldn’t lead to marriage, there are signs it shows; it’s up to you to notice them.