So, everyone around you is either in a relationship or married, and being the only one who’s single you’re pressured into getting involved with someone. Problem is, you’re not quite sure if this is really what you want.
One of the most difficult things to do when you’re single is to admit that you are in fact, not ready for a relationship. Sure everyone deserves a chance to experience love, but more often than not, it’s better to wait until you’ve got your life and emotions in check before committing yourself to another person.
Looking for love? We’ve got some pointers to help you out. Read the following list to see if you are ready to commit.
1.You’re not over your ex
Rebound relationships are a big no, no! There are two reasons as to why this is unwise and the first is, it’s not fair to the guy. It’s wrong to use somebody who might actually like you as a cushion for heartbreak. The second reason is outright plain and simple — the ghost of your ex will always be hanging over the relationship. Instead of starting anew, you’re most likely to take out the issues you had with your ex on your new guy – or worse, you’ll compare him to your ex and evaluate him based on how your ex treated you.
2. Wandering eyes and hands.
In order to be in a committed relationship, one must be willing to settle down with one and only one partner. If you find yourself enjoying the attention given to you by other men, or if you find yourself fantasising about having sexual relations with more than one partner, then chances are you are not ready to commit.
3. You’re Emotionally Unavailable
The idea of being with someone excites you, but you’re not overly concerned with falling in love and more often than not, you close off your heart because you fear getting hurt. To be in a relationship and to really experience what it’s like, you’re going to have to learn to be vulnerable so you can share your hopes, fears and dreams with another person.
4. You don’t know what you want.
You want to be with somebody, but you’re not sure how you feel about exclusivity. You’re hesitant about marriage, you don’t see yourself ever settling down but at the same time you can’t decide if you want to date casually or have a friends-with-benefits relationship. If this is you, chances are you’re not ready to commit.
5. You’re too independent
There’s a very fine line between independence and selfishness. If you’re someone who always insists on having things done your way, who doesn’t find the need to inform anyone about your whereabouts and who loves being the centre of attention at all social gatherings, then you’re probably just not quite ready to be with someone. Unless you’re ready to be considerate of your future boyfriend’s feelings, to inform him of your whereabouts and to share the spotlight with him, you’re best being single for now